When a friend or family member is going through a custody battle, you want to be supportive. You want to be there for him or her, but how? What can you do to help during this difficult time? Here are three ways you can support a loved one going through a custody battle.
One of the best ways you can support a loved one is by letting him or her talk. Work on becoming a great listener. Make sure you don’t interrupt, interject, or insert yourself. Just listen.
This will give your loved one a much-needed way to articulate his or her emotions, which is extremely therapeutic for some individuals. To encourage your friend to keep talking, you can try to ask thought-provoking questions. Or, if you don’t want to push the subject, you can just smile and say, “I’m sorry.”
2. Don’t fuel the fire.
One thing your friend does not need is for you to fuel the fire. This means you should not trash-talk the former spouse. You don’t need to add any negativity to an already-toxic situation, so just keep your opinions to yourself for a while.
It can be tempting to ignore this tip. For some reason, we like to show people we care by saying mean things about the people who are mistreating our loved one. The truth is, that tactic very rarely helps and often intensifies the unhappiness of the person you care about. So, for the sake of your friend’s happiness, keep any negative thoughts to yourself while your friend is going through the custody battle.
3. Be more thoughtful to show you care.
You can’t control the nasty custody battle that your friend is going through. However, you can step up your game as a friend to make sure you are as thoughtful as possible. There are tons of things you can do to show you care. Here are just a few:
- Call every couple of days to ask how things are going.
- Send texts or emails during the day to let your loved one know you’re thinking of him or her.
- Ask your friend to go to dinner or a movie with you.
- Surprise your loved one with a during-the-day visit.
- Send flowers.
- Ask your loved one’s opinion about something happening in your life.
Basically, you’re trying to do your best to show your loved one how truly loved he or she is. Although you want to show as much love as possible, don’t overdo it or else it will look like you really want to start dating your loved one! Pick and choose what you do to show you care.
Fenchel Family Law Cares
At Fenchel Family Law, we never want to see any families go through nasty custody battles. No one wants that, and no one benefits from it. If you are looking for a divorce lawyer for your California divorce, please give us a call. Our experts are happy to discuss what we can do to try to keep your divorce cordial. Give us a call today at (415) 805-9069 or contact us online.