Although you knew your divorce would impact the major holidays Thanksgiving or Christmas where families traditionally come together, you may not have considered smaller holidays like Valentine’s Day. You might be uncertain about how you’re going to enjoy this day, especially with all sorts of commercials and store displays about love and romance all around you. But you don’t need to feel left out or let the rest of the world try to dictate how you should celebrate Valentine’s Day. In this blog, we provide a few tips on how you can still celebrate Valentine’s Day (or any other holiday) following a divorce.
- Make it all about you!
It’s okay to be a little selfish every now and then, and holidays are a great time to take advantage. Shower yourself with love and kindness, or give yourself a little gift. Do whatever you need to do in order to have the perfect day. Maybe you bring treats into the office or schedule a lunch or dinner with some of your other single friends.
Finally, do whatever makes you happy after dinner. No matter what you like to do, now is the perfect time to treat yourself, even if it’s something small like a bubble bath or getting Postmates to deliver dessert to your house.
- Make custody arrangements.
If it is important for you to have your children with you, make arrangements with your ex. Make sure that you are clear about what you would like to do. Above all else, ask kindly and offer a fair trade.
Keep in mind that it may not be possible for you to have your children today. Perhaps they had other plans in advance. If that happens, plan other ways to celebrate with your children. Maybe you can surprise them with a treat at school or perhaps you plan an outing the next time you are together.
- Create new traditions.
After your divorce, the key to a happy holiday is creating new traditions that bring you joy. Don’t waste time and happiness celebrating the way you think you should. Instead, celebrate however makes you happiest.
- Ask for help.
If the upcoming holiday leaves you filled with dread or depression, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Confide in friends and ask them specifically to spend time with you. Or, if you don’t feel like you can talk to your friends about your issues, seek help from a professional. You could confide in a counselor or join a support group. This offers the opportunity to meet other people who might be in a similar situation.
If you have questions or need advice on any California family law issues, Fenchel Family Law can help. Whether you are filing for a divorce or need to modify your child custody arrangement, our skilled attorneys are here for you. Give us a call today at (415) 650-1112 or contact us online.