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Custody battles can be incredibly emotionally and legally taxing for parents. You might be overwhelmed with concern over what the future of your relationship with your children will look like, as well as their overall well-being. However, all of this can be made even more challenging if the other parent is a narcissist, is abusive, has a drug and/or alcohol dependency, or is just generally irresponsible.
California’s family court system prioritizes the best interests of the children, which includes considerations for their stability, safety, and wellness. In most cases, the court prefers joint custody whenever possible. Frequent and continuing contact with both parents is assumed to be in the child’s best interests. However, if you have a compelling case for why joint custody is impractical or harmful to your children, you may have a better chance at winning sole custody.
In this blog, we’ll divulge the 6 critical tips that can boost your chances of winning your California custody battle!
Have A Clear Understanding Of California Custody Laws & A Clear Vision Of What You Want To Achieve
Before you engage in a custody battle, it’s important to know what you are fighting for and have a clear vision of what you want to achieve, because “winning” will look different for everyone.
In California, child custody refers to the rights and responsibilities of the parents for taking care of their children. Legal custody refers to who will make the important decisions regarding the upbringing of the children, such as their health care, education, and general welfare. On the other hand, physical custody refers to who the children will live with most of the time.
Legal and physical custody can either be shared (joint) or allocated to only one parent (sole), or a combination of the two. While one parent having sole custody in California is rare, it is more common in situations involving unfit parents. If one parent has sole custody, the other parent may still have rights to visitation, unless the court determines it would be harmful to the children.
When a judge is asked to make the final decision because the parents do not agree on custody matters, they do so with the following aspects in mind:
- The age and health of the children
- The emotional ties between the parents and the children
- The kids’ ties to their school, home, and community
- The ability of each parent to care of the children
- Any history of family violence
- Any regular and ongoing substance abuse by either parent
- And other factors relevant to the kids’ best interests.
If “winning” your custody battle means having sole custody of your children, then it is probable that you believe it to be in their best interests. However, it’s important that you understand how this outcome may play out in the future, not just in the moment.
Having sole custody means not having the physical support of another parent there to help you raise your children. It may also mean that your children aren’t able to develop a meaningful relationship with their other parent or with other members of their extended family. You will be a full-time parent, which could present unique challenges to both you and your children.
On the other hand, sole custody means having peace of mind that your children are safe and cared for, which may not be possible with another custody arrangement. Therefore, no matter what “winning” looks like for you, it’s crucial that you fully consider the implications of your victory for both you and your children.
Prepare A Comprehensive Case
Evidence and documentation are going to play a key role in your case. The more resources you are able to gather that demonstrate the stability and continuity sole custody can provide for your children, the stronger your case will be. This may include:
- Medical reports, criminal records, and other official documents
- Photos and videos of you and your children
- Messages between you and the other parent
- Journal entries, if you have been documenting events since the custody dispute began
- Parenting expense reports (especially if you have been covering most of the expenses related to your kids)
- A parenting plan with your proposed custody arrangement and rules written in court-ready language (more on this below)
- Witnesses and/or experts who can corroborate your reasons for seeking sole custody (such as friends, relatives, teachers, mental health professionals, medical doctors, etc.)
- And other relevant evidence that is admissible in court, if it exists.
Your proposed parenting plan will also be paramount to your case, even if you are seeking sole custody. A successful sole custody parenting plan should include details about:
- Custody specifics as outline by the court decision our-path-to-becoming-the-primary
- Visitation times (if applicable) and the outline of when and how transfers of the children will occur
- Clear, easy-to-read schedule
- Where children will spend holidays, vacations, and birthdays
- Education decisions for the children
- Discipline agreements and other child-rearing details
- Medical coverage and health care requirements
- And more.
Maintain A Cooperative Spirit When Interacting With The Other Parent
While this may be easier said than done, it is essential that you maintain a cooperative spirit when interacting with the other parent as much as possible. Depending on your specific situation, this may not always be an option, but if it is, it could work in your favor to show the court how you have tried to keep tensions from flaring more than they already have.
As already iterated, judges prioritize the best interests of the child, which often includes ensuring a healthy relationship with both parents. Cooperation shows that you also prioritize the best interests of your kids’ over your personal grievances, therefore bolstering your case.
Keep Your Cool In Court
Hashing out your custody battle in court will be uncomfortable. You may hear things that upset you or begin to feel sad or angry at how the hearing is unfolding, but you must not let your emotions get the better of you. Be honest, be respectful when speaking of the other parent, and let the evidence of your case speak for itself.
Advocate For Your Kids’ Best Interests
You must be clear about why you having sole custody is in the best interests of your kids. If your concern isn’t genuine and your motivation is purely self-serving, this will be obvious to a judge. Always keep the focus on your kids’ happiness, security, mental health, and emotional development.
Work With A Skilled And Experienced California Custody Lawyer
Having an attorney on your side who is not only well-versed in California custody laws but also seasoned in handling high-conflict custody cases will be integral to helping you achieve your desired outcome. The journey to being granted sole custody of your children will not be an easy one, so you need the advice and guidance of professionals who have a record of success.
A skilled custody lawyer can assist you with every aspect that has been mentioned in this blog so far, from understanding California custody laws, to getting a clear vision of your goals, creating a detailed parenting plan, building a compelling case, preparing you for court and more. They know how the judge will evaluate your case and what factors may persuade them one way or another, giving you a significant advantage.
Fenchel Family Law PC Is Committed To Helping You Get The Results You Need
As seasoned California family law attorneys, the legal professionals at Fenchel Family Law PC understand how emotionally challenging custody battles can be, which is why we always strive to formulate a parenting plan that is appropriate for your needs, as well as those of your kids.
We are prepared to meet with you and discuss your situation, then help you determine if achieving sole custody of your children is a likely outcome in court. We will help you gather evidence and documentation, build a compelling case on your behalf, and be your support system when you need it most. Call today to book your free case evaluation, or book directly here, and learn more about your legal options.
